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13 opinions for Anybody want a real page turner?

• America
  Apr 10, 2007 at 9:49 pm

  I still fall into the “not yet ready to date” category. I’ve only been separated 8 months, and my son is 3.3 years. My gut reaction to dating found some backup in the post you made a while back about a stable single parent household being better for a child than a parent who brings home people only to have them leave. My ex lived with his father, had very little contact with his mother and had 4 (!) stepmothers. I still think he suffers from some pretty wicked attachment disorders and I do NOT want to do that to my son. (My ex is already dating again - I think it runs in his family). SO I am going to make DAMN sure that I am ready before I jump back into the game. Sometimes I window shop, but I am not buying anything.

• Catherine
  Apr 10, 2007 at 10:21 pm

  Definetly agree. Two kids (approx same age), and separated 7 months ago: he’s already moved in with his new partner. To be honest, the thought of a relationship with a man at the moment makes my skin crawl. Ah, my oh-so-healthy psyche. However I think I’m comfortable enough by myself and with myself and my own company, that I have no problem contemplating the rest of my life as a single woman. Which is actually a rather nice place to be.

• Carrie
  Apr 11, 2007 at 2:06 am

  hi =)

  I go out with friends every second weekend when my daughter is with her father, sometimes I dance with people, mostly I dance and hang out with friends… At this moment in time I feel OPEN to a relationship, but I am certainly not looking for one. There is a singles night coming up at my favourite hang out, and I am not going!! Mostly I just love my life the way it is right now, and it is hard for me to think about that changing to accomodate another person. I think that because I am happy as is, when the right time comes for a relationship I will have more to bring to the table. My daughter and I will be secure, happy, and content =) and don’t send the book to me - the postage will criple you haha I just wanted to comment as I love your blog, and gain a lot from the comments people leave here also =) Give the KoE a big hug and know that you make a difference =D xx

• Kate
  Apr 11, 2007 at 1:12 pm

  I fall into the married category, but I’d still like to read this book. In my case, though, it’s just voyeurism.

• Linda
  Apr 11, 2007 at 3:05 pm

  I am a single mom of two girls… 5 years and 13 months. I find it hard to date. Only my 5 year old is gone on weekends so I always have the baby. It is hard to find a way to date and get a babysitter, etc. This book would be very helpful and a cool read i am sure.

• christina
  Apr 11, 2007 at 4:36 pm

  Kate, it’s definitely a bathtub kind of read. I was amazed at how much I felt I knew this woman, reading her words. And since I try so hard not to judge, but support, what we women are trying to do every day, I cheered her on when she learned something valuable and held my breath as she felt her way through the rough spots.

• christina
  Apr 11, 2007 at 4:38 pm

  Carrie, I know just what you’re talking about. Life is much… simpler with just the two of us. The KoE and I know how to work together as a team, we care about each others’ happiness, and to put another person into the mix right now would not do anyone any good. Maybe some day. But until I’m sure I can find another member of our team, I’m not recruiting any more players.

• christina
  Apr 11, 2007 at 4:40 pm

  Linda, finding someone to look after our children while we try to get some ‘us’ time is so hard. I know many single moms who just give up on it. Single Mom Seeking isn’t so much about how to’s as it is a fascinating, honest look into one single mother’s search for a man who could fit into their lives…

• Cindy
  Apr 11, 2007 at 6:41 pm

  I am not actually a single mom yet…I am adopting and am currently waiting for my referral (where you get a picture and find out gender, age, etc). So…as I get ready to become a single mom I enjoy reading your blog!

• christina
  Apr 11, 2007 at 7:46 pm

  Cindy, I’m so excited for you! I wish I could figure out a way to adopt. I don’t think I can afford to. Maybe when we own our own home I’ll look into it again. Please keep in touch and let us know about your new little one!

• christina
  Apr 11, 2007 at 7:50 pm

  America, welcome to SoloMother. I’m sorry you had such a difficult marriage. I have decided that, if ever I get involved again, I’m going to interview his family too. It’s so true what they say about looking to how a person treats their parents to know how they will treat their spouse. I’m looking for someone with a normal, stable background. I hope you are happier now that you don’t have to deal with that kind of uncertainty in your life, and I’m sure your son is doing much better.

• christina
  Apr 11, 2007 at 7:52 pm

  Catharine, I was having just that same conversation with my mother the other day. She was a single mom who found a wonderful man to be my father and her husband. But I’ve decided to make my own life and be happy as a single woman. There’s too much to worry about in life to date right now. Between AIDS and a responsibility for my child’s safety and happiness, there’s not much room to swing on the dating scene. I’ll settle for a good movie. Don’t worry about getting the heebie jeebies when you think about dating. It’s definitely too soon. You’ll know when you’re ready.

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