Are you thinking about adoption?
I think about adopting a child, from time to time. My kid really should be one of five (he’s lobbying for one of fifteen, but even Mother Theresa wouldn’t be able to handle that insanity!), and I feel bad that he’s an only child. I don’t have any idea of how to even begin to go about it.
Luckily, b5media’s own, “A Child Chosen” has posted a list of great adoption books. I think I’ll go to the library and see if this dream is ever going to be a reality.
What do you think? Are you interested in adopting, single mom?
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7 opinions for Are you thinking about adoption?
Carrie
Jan 30, 2008 at 12:09 am
*sigh*
I know where you’re coming from, my daughter is lobbying for another baby as a friend of mine has recently had twins!! My mum is also on my case as she wants another grand child, and doesn’t want me to ever regret not having more children…
My opinion? I’d prefer to have another child on my own, that way I wouldn’t expect any help or be disappointed with a father (lol oh dear jaded much?)..
I thought about sperm donation, because I truly loved being pregnant. But I can’t bring myself to do it. Massive kudos to all those women out there who are brave enough to have babies/children on their own - I’m just too chicken!!
Adoption sounds like a good plan, I’d love to hear your story if you go ahead with it Christina. *hugs*
christina
Jan 30, 2008 at 12:16 am
Hah, Carrie. I’m too old to be having babies. It’s nice to dream about a more rambunctious household than I already have with the King of Everything…
but I’m afraid it might just be a dream…
angel
Jan 30, 2008 at 1:26 pm
i have IMMENSE admiration for people who adopt… but i’ve honestly never thought of taking on a challenge like that myself.
Rebecca
Jan 30, 2008 at 2:39 pm
I’ve thought of adopting also, because my son asks when we’re going to have a sweet little baby. Then I think about how this would a deliberate decision to add a member to our family and how different that would be than the chaos of my unexpected pregnancy. I kind of like how things are right now and, who am I kidding, I also think I’ve still got time to meet someone and have a baby that way. At some point, though, I’m probably going to have to seriously consider this.
It’s pretty expensive, isn’t it?
christina
Jan 30, 2008 at 5:58 pm
Rebecca, I hear there are ways to mitigate the cost of adoption… though if you don’t have health insurance, i think adoption is cheaper than having a baby in a hospital!
Rebecca
Jan 31, 2008 at 1:52 pm
Oh, for sure. I think it was about $15,000 when I had my son, not including return trips, but I had insurance.
Interesting, I’ll have to check into that!
JP
Feb 1, 2008 at 2:22 am
Very interesting topic. Anyone remember back to Dan Quayle and Murphy Brown? How times have changed, yes?
As an adopted child myself, my parents’ favorite book to read to me at a certain age (between three and four, as I recall) was “The Chosen Baby.” I remember it vividy, with simple two-color illustrations in minimalist syle, a dark green cloth cover with a texture you could really feel, and a spine that suggeted it would last millenia.
I was the oldest of three adopted children (my parents were unable to conceive), but the book was about an adopted child coming into a family that already included a biological child. the parents’ explanation of adoption to their child was the author’s conceit used to explain to adopted children why they were special. Remarkably PC in a non-PC Sixties kinda way.
I can only say that I’m awfully grateful to have been adopted in the first place, and to have found (to be gramaticcally correct, to be found) by such loving and devoted parents as I had.
I guess what occurs to me to write is: Trust fate, and help her as you are moved.
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