Got those holiday blues?
I wonder if every holiday will be like this: even through the pleasure of having the King of Everything around, I’m haunted by the spectre of Next Year. Next year, my son will be with his father somewhere far away, and I will be without the light of my life for the first time since he was born.
I try hard not to but I can’t help thinking about that. I can’t see, right now, how I’ll spend next Christmas any other way but in tears. Am I the only one? Anyone out there, tell me. Does it get any easier? Do you miss your children any less over the years when it’s not ‘your turn’?
How do you make those years merry and bright?
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6 opinions for Got those holiday blues?
Carrie
Dec 26, 2006 at 3:53 am
This year it wasn’t my turn. My first Christmas without my daughter, who just turned three. Other christmasses her dad wanted to spend drinking, and partying. This chrissy he has his new family, so actually said it was his turn. Fair enough and about time I thought on one hand, on the other ‘what do I do without her?’
My family have kind of drifted this holiday period, noone was really doing any family things on the actual day.
So I went to the Mission Australia lunch in the park for the ‘less fortunate.’ I seriously had my best ever christmas, even without my daughter. The people there were so hungry, that they were stuffing leftovers in their pockets. There was Santa riding in on a big Harley, and all the kids got presents of books and big things like remote control cars.. They had a talent show, and if the kids won they won a bike or mp3 player!! I took a three year old girl recently moved here from China to get her face painted, and I got to have cuddles and kisses from heaps more kids. The amount of volunteers cheered my spirit immensly, and the gratitude of the guests for such a simple day warmed my soul.
Seriously, I reccomend it, you will feel a hell of a lot better about your life.. I certainly do!
Merry Christmas
xx
Christina
Dec 26, 2006 at 10:54 am
Carrie, what a wonderful thing to do. My mother is holding on to fond hopes that I’ll be with Nico next year no matter where he spends Christmas. We’ll see.
I’m glad you did something uplifting this christmas.
angel
Dec 30, 2006 at 1:38 pm
in a way i’m “lucky” (for lack of a better word) in that i have no contact with my sons father and so its always “my turn”… i dunno what i’d do without him!
christina
Dec 30, 2006 at 2:20 pm
I’m dreading next year. I think my father was beside himself thinking about it. We’ll muddle through. I hear the Bahamas are lovely this time of year.
Croila
Apr 12, 2007 at 12:59 pm
My boy’s just turned 4, and he’s never spent a Christmas with his father yet, and until my son begs me to go there, he won’t. I do 99.5% of all the hard work in looking after him, bringing him up, and have done right from the moment he was born. The way I see it is, having him with me for Christmas is my reward for all the hard, hard work and sacrifices I make the rest of the year round. My boy’s used to being with me and the rest of my family for Christmas and I don’t think he’ll be in any hurry to go elsewhere. What his father thinks about this, well … I don’t really care, to be honest.
Each situation is different, obviously, but are absolutely sure letting him go to his father’s for next Christmas is what you feel is the right thing to do? You don’t feel guilt-tripped into it, do you? Sorry, I don’t mean to presume to tell how to do things - it’s just a thought that occurred to me, is all!
christina
Apr 12, 2007 at 1:31 pm
Thanks, Croila. Don’t apologize for speaking your mind so respectfully of my own feelings! I don’t know what next Christmas will bring. I’ll get to that bridge when I cross it. It depends on so many things. I’m glad you know what you want for your boy and aren’t afraid to stand up for it!
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