Help a mother out
I know that having a child was the beginning of the end of my marriage, as ironic as that sounds. It ripped the lid off several issues we were ignoring, sidestepping, or that simply hadn’t blown up in our faces yet.
The extraordinary kbaggot (one of my favorite mothers) over at Babylune is “looking for single mothers who either have an infant or became single when one of their children was an infant.” We all know that having a child is an incredibly stressful time in the life of a marriage, where what used to be ‘just us’ can quickly turn into two to one. Exhaustion, helplessness, post partum depression, financial pressures, and a host of other factors can make or break a relationship.
If this is what happened to you, drop Kate a line. Let her know how it happened. You’ll be glad you did.
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7 opinions for Help a mother out
Ratphooey
Oct 16, 2006 at 7:53 am
I think couples should make a pact that they will not even consider breaking up during the first two years of a child’s life (you’d think that marriage vows would cover that, but gee, notsomuch, not anymore).
The first two years of parenthood are so challenging. I think each partner owes it to the other to just hang in there while they are adjusting to parenthood.
christina
Oct 16, 2006 at 9:18 am
it’s a shame life doesn’t come with an owner’s manual.
Kate
Oct 16, 2006 at 1:12 pm
You would think that “hanging in there” was implied, but some people can’t get over getting less attention even if it is for their own children.
ratphooey
Oct 16, 2006 at 1:15 pm
Sad but true.
Of course, my husband and I survived the first two years, only to get pregnant again. We get maybe six months’ grace before #2 arrives.
At least we know what we’re in for this time around.
christina
Oct 16, 2006 at 6:52 pm
LOL well, i do wish you luck. I’m still sad I never had a second child, but in retrospect, it would have tied me to a hellish marriage.
Ratphooey
Oct 16, 2006 at 9:02 pm
Believe me, there are still days when I wonder if having another is the best decision. :-)
If the marriage doesn’t survive, I’ll be disappointed, but I’d be more disappointed if I didn’t have a second child.
christina
Oct 18, 2006 at 8:50 am
LOL I know what you mean. I do wish I had two kids. I’m glad I don’t have to deal with two kids at this point in my life.
Who knows? Perhaps someday I’ll be financially comfortable and can adopt a little one.
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