Let’s talk about sex.
Aha! Got your attention. While I can’t really contemplate ever again performing the act that brought me the King of Everything, I do know I won’t be gunshy forever about members of the hairier sex. Friends are already threatening to set me up. I’ve already told them to be on the lookout for a Jason Statham package with a college professor on the inside. So far, no luck. I figure, set an impossible goal. That way, if someone DOES find that combination, I won’t have anything to complain about.
Dating as a single mother, especially a single mother with physical custody of the under-18’s, has got to be tricky. When do you introduce the kid? If your date has kids, when do you introduce them to each other? And the big question: to sleep, or not to sleep over. And if you do sleep over, does the guest sneak out to sleep in the guest room? Let’s ponder double standards for a moment. How ever will your teenage son or daughter understand that the person you want to have sex with, or are having sex with, can spend the night, but their current flame can’t??
As the custodial parent, how much privacy are you entitled to? How much say does the ex have in your romatic life? Will he be able to prevent your amour from sleeping over? Will he be able to object? Not legally, but I’m sure an ex who’s not ready for the mother of his child(ren) to move on can make things mighty uncomfortable.
Another thing: short of running a full background check, Gattaca style, on every man who catches your eye, how do you learn to trust? The trouble with dating when divorce and kids are involved is the extra number of hearts involved, some very small hearts who are trying to get over the divorce, themselves.
I guess I’ll have to just keep all my feelers out, stretch my intuition as far as it will reach, and listen. If I’m destined for great things, great things and I will find each other. But staying single isn’t unattractive, either. I don’t snore. I don’t mind when I hog the bed. I sometimes pee with the door open. Maybe I don’t want to share — my life, my son, our precious three hours a day together. But maybe not. Ask me in six months. Ask me again in a year.
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