my first year as a single mother come and gone… blink!
Christmas is almost done, but for the memories and the lasting wish for kindness and understanding, real understanding, to descend upon this crazy world. I could begin from the biggest to the smallest of us, or vice versa: warring nations, blood spilled when we should all try to turn the other cheek… cruel words exchanged between loved ones, or those who used to love, when we could simply bite our tongues.
This is what I think about, now at the end of the year. Personally, I resolve to find more patience with my son, my polar opposite and heart’s delight. We must find some middle ground. He’s such an extrovert, and I’m an introvert. He needs to be around people, all the time. I need to be alone from time to time. We’ll find some way to give each other what we need to thrive and grow.
I will be more clear and honest with friends, family, loved ones, about what I need and want. Along with that, I will make my own health and happiness a priority for the first time in my life, and try to stop putting myself last. This means getting to the gym every day, eating well, dancing and laughing and being a good friend.
I will work on forgiving myself, and being kind.
What do you hope to accomplish in 2008?
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7 opinions for my first year as a single mother come and gone… blink!
worker bee
Dec 25, 2007 at 9:11 pm
your resolutions will make *me* happy. i wish you nothing but the absolute best for 2008 . . . the sky’s the limit, my dear.
and here’s to more caribou, too. :)
christina
Dec 26, 2007 at 1:09 am
:) Hi sweets. I hope you had a lovely Day today. I’m going to the Y tomorrow. Might ring you up and decaffinate you.
worker bee
Dec 26, 2007 at 9:45 am
sounds like a plan . . . i’m the only one here today! (well, KP’s here too, but that’s it on our floor.) i could use some decaffination.
Rebecca
Dec 26, 2007 at 12:41 pm
Christina, you are beautiful! I am still here, reading, just not posting a lot. I’m so glad to hear that you are happy.
I will try very hard to have more patience with my children as well. The 15 yr old in particular. She is on a good day, more difficult than the 2 and 3 year olds combined. And I’m afraid that the 12 yr old will soon BECOME her and then I will REALLY have my hands full. :-)
I wish you all the very best in 2008!
Andrea
Dec 26, 2007 at 4:37 pm
solomother, you are beautiful!!!!
i haven’t had much to say lately, but i still read your blog faithfully. awhile back you posted about feeling lonely, and you wrote “the history of your heart is in the making.” i have repeated that sentence to myself countless times in the past month or so, when i have been feeling so very very lonely. i hope you and the king had a wonderful holiday, and i hope you know how very much you inspire and comfort me, a divorced mother of a son (two actually) like you. thank you, and here’s to another wonderful year of single motherhood!
christina
Dec 27, 2007 at 2:54 pm
Hi, Rebecca, I’m glad you’re still here. I have absolutely no advice re fifteen year old, but you have my unending sympathy. Have you read the Parenting Teens and Tweens blog here on b5media?
christina
Dec 27, 2007 at 2:56 pm
Andrea I’m so glad my words can help. Notes like yours keep me going, too. Let’s all try to bring our spirits and self-confidence up in 2008! Keep in touch, let me know how it’s going.
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