Psychology Today says divorce isn’t always disaster
It was so nice to find this article by David Mahl that refutes the doom and gloom preaching we hear about divorce.
Apparently, some kids take a positive lesson from the split. There are three types of kids: Modelers, Strugglers, and Reconcilers.
The group students fell into depended on the type of connection they had with their parents, post-divorce. Modelers related fairly well to their parents, but had limited insight into the problems their parents endured. Strugglers grew distant from their parents after the split, receiving little emotional support and ambiguous messages from them; consequently, they became unsure of what behaviors to emulate in their own love lives. Reconcilers, however, remained close to their parents, who were also more likely to go on to happy remarriages. This positive example made reconcilers optimistic about their love lives and helped them learn to relate to romantic partners.
Yet another proof positive that the way we handle life’s ups and downs teaches our children how to do the same in their own lives.
Tags: David-Mahl, Psychology-Today, the-upside-of-divorceRelated Stories
POSTED IN: divorce
0 opinions for Psychology Today says divorce isn’t always disaster
No one has left a comment yet. You know what this means, right? You could be first!
Have an opinion? Leave a comment: