The power of positive thinking for the single mom
I’m reminded of an 80’s song by the Godfathers: Birth School Work Death. They forgot the part where you get married, have a kid, and get divorced, but got the monotony of life about right, otherwise.
Except…
Could I change my outlook on life? I can’t believe how much better life has become for my son and I since we came back to the U.S. –emotionally, financially, and just all around improved quality of life. Getting out from under the negative aspects of my marriage gave me the freedom to bend my own course, find my own mind, and realize… hey… I’m a pretty positive person, beneath the muck and grime of ten years of bad choices (in men… which is why I’m not choosing my own man, again. Someone else can do that for me).
But there’s the wistful in me, the lonely and the isolated. I’m afraid to ask for too much; a part of me believes that hardship is infinite but joy is fleeting. Part of me believes that a good life, a joyous life, isn’t something I deserve. I’ve been told too many times that I’m just not good enough. I can change that voice in my head though. I started to when I woke up to reality and knew my marriage couldn’t be saved, that there was no team, there was no unified effort. I kept a positive attitude and didn’t let how difficult it was to find a home, find a job, stop me from believing it would happen.
Somewhere at the core of me, I believe that ‘difficult’ is life’s default position. I want a redesign. I want Life 2.0. I’m going to make contentment my default position, and treat these temporary dips into not so smooth sailing as temporary aberrations in an otherwise pretty damned good life.
What do you think? Can it be done? Can I turn my black-sailed ship around and do a little redecorating? I think so. I know for a fact that my positive, can-do, never say never attitude has gotten me farther in seven months than my fatalistic attitude has carried me in seven years.
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4 opinions for The power of positive thinking for the single mom
Gloria
Apr 24, 2007 at 11:39 am
YES you can Christina…definitely! ;-)
Christina
Apr 24, 2007 at 11:50 am
:) Thanks, Gloria. I think so, too.
Rachel Sarah
Apr 24, 2007 at 12:41 pm
Oh, but you are good enough! [Who on earth told you otherwise? I’m sending out the squad to hunt them down…]
You deserve to be loved…. you deserve breakfast brought to you in bed, love notes left under your pillow, walks in the woods when you’re holding hands. Really.
I’m all the way across the country, here in California, rooting for you!
christina
Apr 24, 2007 at 7:47 pm
Thank you, Rachel, you’re so good to me. My ex told me, in a thousand words and deeds, that I wasn’t good enough.
I am not holding my breath that there is a kind, laugh-lined man out there looking for me. But I won’t say no if he finds me.
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